BE YOU THE WORLD WILL ADJUST

If you feel that you have to be someone other than yourself for others to love you, then look around at those people and ask yourself if it’s you who needs to change or perhaps you might want to change who surrounds you. A true friend and romantic partner loves you for who you really are. Not who they want you to be. They embrace your quirks and you theirs.

Love yourself, truly and deeply. Not in an ego kind of way but rather embracing who you are, your soul (not your appearance, or title or role in society). If you notice that you are constantly seeking the approval of others, ask yourself What is missing inside that I am trying to compensate for?

Don’t judge it. Throw some love at it rather. Learn to be you because you are truly beautiful. When you can see that beauty in yourself and others, everything flows and the dramas start fading away.

Tia Hilda

No todos tenemos la suerte de tener a una tía a la que tenemos un cariño muy especial y que adoramos porque siempre nos trató de una forma que nos hizo sentir diferente a los demás y hasta llegamos a desarrollar por ella un afecto que solo podemos sentir por una Madre.

Eres una tía sin igual, mis amigas te admiran por ser tan alegre y porque muchas veces has sido cómplice de nuestras travesuras. Desde que tengo uso de razón has ocupado un lugar muy importante en mi vida.. ¡Te quiero y admiro mucho!

No olvides que en la distancia cuentas con una sobrina que te quiere, que te adora, que te idolatra y que siempre te desea lo mejor del mundo para ti, porque lo mereces, porque has sido una tía espectacular y siempre estás en mi recuerdo...

Tattoo Oct. 03

Tattoos ... are the stories in your heart, written on your skin.... They decorate the body but they also enhance the soul.

PS: The world is divided into two kinds of people: those who have tattoos, and those who are afraid of people with tattoos.

T.V.

Commitment gives you freedom because you’re no longer distracted by the unimportant and frivolous.  Commitment gives you freedom because it hones your attention and focus, directing them toward what is most efficient at making you healthy and happy.  Commitment makes decision-making easier and removes any fear of missing out; knowing that what you already have is good enough, why would you ever stress about chasing more, more, more again? Commitment allows you to focus intently on a few highly important goals and achieve a greater degree of success than you otherwise would.

To Chiki & Mati

The strong bond of friendship is not always a balanced equation; friendship is not always about giving and taking in equal shares. Instead, friendship is grounded in a feeling that you know exactly who will be there for you when you need something, no matter what or when.

Chiki

Live a life you will remember

Learning to set healthy personal boundaries is necessary for maintaining a positive self-concept, or self-image.

It is our way of communicating to others that we have self-respect, self-worth, and will not allow others to define us.

Personal boundaries are the physical, emotional and mental limits we establish to protect ourselves from being manipulated, used, or violated by others. They allow us to separate who we are, and what we think and feel, from the thoughts and feelings of others. Their presence helps us express ourselves as the unique individuals we are, while we acknowledge the same in others.

It would not be possible to enjoy healthy relationships without the existence of personal boundaries, or without our willingness to communicate them directly and honestly with others. We must recognize that each of us is a unique individual with distinct emotions, needs and preferences. This is equally true for our spouses, children and friends.

To set personal boundaries means to preserve your integrity, take responsibility for who you are, and to take control of your life.

Know that you have a right to personal boundaries. You not only have the right, but you must take responsibility for how you allow others to treat you. Your boundaries act as filters permitting what is acceptable in your life and what is not. If you don't have boundaries that protect and define you, as in a strong sense of identity, you tend to derive your sense of worth from others. To avoid this situation, set clear and decisive limits so that others will respect them, then be willing to do whatever it takes to enforce them. Interestingly, it's been shown that those who have weak boundaries themselves tend to violate the boundaries of others. 

Recognize that other people's needs and feelings are not more important than your own. Many women have traditionally thought that the needs of their husbands and children are more important than their own. This is not only untrue, but it can undermine the healthy functioning of the family dynamic. If a woman is worn out mentally and physically from putting everyone else first, she not only destroys her own health, she in turn deprives her family of being fully engaged in their lives. Instead, she should encourage every family member to contribute to the whole as well as take care of himself or herself. Putting themselves last is not something only women do, but many men as well.

Learn to say no. Many of us are people-pleasers and often put ourselves at a disadvantage by trying to accommodate everyone. We don't want to be selfish, so we put our personal needs on the back burner and agree to do things that may not be beneficial to our well-being. Actually, a certain amount of "selfishness" is necessary for having healthy personal boundaries. You do not do anyone any favors, least of all yourself, by trying to please others at your own expense. 

Identify the actions and behaviors that you find unacceptable. Let others know when they've crossed the line, acted inappropriately, or disrespected you in any way. Do not be afraid to tell others when you need emotional and physical space. Allow yourself to be who you really are without pressure from others to be anything else. Know what actions you may need to take if your wishes aren't respected.  

Trust and believe in yourself. You are the highest authority on you. You know yourself best. You know what you need, want, and value. Don't let anyone else make the decisions for you. Healthy boundaries make it possible for you to respect your strengths, abilities and individuality as well as those of others. An unhealthy imbalance occurs when you encourage neediness, or are needy; want to be rescued, or are the rescuer, or when you choose to play the victim.

My Family .... My Everything

I want you to know how I feel about you guys, about who you are to me and what that means to me Kat. I don’t take lightly the time you spend reading what I have to say. I’m moved and touched and honored by it.

And so please indulge me as I share a few thoughts with you about both of you.

1. I love the person you are

I care about you and Nico. I care about who you are. You matter to me both as the founder of Meant to be Happy and as a fellow human being. I love the goodness that is in your heart and the desire you have to learn and grow and become even more and even better than you were yesterday.

I love you as someone dedicated – no matter how imperfectly – to living a life of personal growth, of happiness and character.

2. I appreciate you

I’m grateful for your comments and kind words, for your support, your wisdom and challenges and insight and trust.

I’m filled with appreciation for all you are and all you aspire to be. I appreciate your dedication to things like standards and decency.

3. I’m proud of you

I want you to know what you may not have been told before, or told only too infrequently:

I’m proud of you.

I’m proud of you for trying. For placing one foot in front of the other. For waking up every morning and simply giving it your best shot.

Your focus is on the quality of person you are over the image and façade we sometimes pretend to be. I’m proud of you for your desire to improve and grow, to stretch and challenge yourself.

You see, it matters less where you might be today at this moment on the character and happiness continuum than the direction your pointed in and the strides you’re taking toward improving.

I’m proud of you for taking those steps. I’m proud of you for being you and working to rise to the best you inside of you.

4. I believe in you

You are an amazing being with amazing God-given capacity. I believe in who you are and who you are working to be. We are all works-in-progress. One of life’s purposes is to improve on the wiring under the hood of our lives. I believe in your ability to stand and courageously be the person you were meant to be.

I’m not perfect. Nowhere near it. I’m a flawed human being. I have weaknesses and character blind spots. We all do. That fact doesn’t define us. What defines us is what we’re doing about it.

You see, the ability to grow and climb and reach and evolve is infinite. You are infinite and eternal. I believe in your ability to rise above and break through and overcome. I believe in your human capacity to survive and change and improve. I believe in your capacity to learn and apply the principles of happiness to live with joy as you develop those qualities that happy people share.

5. You can be whatever you want to be

As a person who can shape and reshape your inner world, I also believe you can become what you most want to become.

It may take sacrifice and hard work and sustained effort over time. Maybe over a long period of it. But I believe there are paths to what you want most in life.

You can become what you wish to become, even if it takes more work than you’ve ever extended to do anything else before in your life.

6. You are important to me

I cherish the relationship we’ve established. I don’t take it lightly or for granted. You have lent me something precious and special. You have lent me your time and your interest. I thank you for that.

I care about both of your life and your happiness. I wouldn’t do what I do if I didn’t. I care about you as a person. We are spiritual siblings, you and I. I know this to be true. And it means a lot to me.

7. You are beautiful

Have you ever been told how beautiful you are? You are a beautiful person because you strive to create beauty in your life by the way you work at living it and in your heart by the way you choose to open it and share it. The external is the shell to the person. You, the person, are already beautiful. And I bask in that beauty.

GRACIAS POR TANTO ... los amo ♥️😘🙌🏻

❤️&❤️

You're my person because you hear me, even when I'm silent. You don't make me talk. I don't have to say anything and you know if something is wrong. You know my "hangry" mood compared to my tired mood. You know when I'm about to break down and how to fix me. You just know. The one person who is my number one, who knows what food I will or won't like, who supports me...

You put up with me. You handle me. You aren't afraid to hurt my feelings, to get under my skin, to make me feel something. But you're always there at the end of the day. No matter what. You're a thousand wonderfully weird things, but what I love the most is that you try. Even when we bicker and argue for arguing's sake, and disagree. Every single day you try to get to know me better, to grow with me, experience life with me. 

That is what makes you my person.

V & C

The day I met you my life changed. the way you make me feel is too hard to explain. you make me smile in a special way. you make me fall deeper in love everyday. you look in my eyes and make it true: how there's no one in the world for me but you

What Music is

You know what music is? God's little reminder that there's something else besides us in this universe, a harmonic connection between all living beings, every where, even the stars.