Let Go and Let GOD!!

A family member will take advantage of the fact that you are family – a bond that is supposed to be enduring, loving and respectful – to manipulate and hurt you because they know you will find it very hard to remove yourself because you are family.

ABUSE IS NEVER TOLERABLE!!!!

If there is physical abuse you absolutely need to cut ties.

Anyone who physically hurts is breaking the law and there are consequences for their actions. If someone if emotionally manipulating, bullying and abusing you, know that you deserve better and that it’s OK to let go and walk away even if you are walking away from your Mother or Father or a family member

No amount of love, forgiveness, guilt, grief or prayer will fix a person that is broken and purposefully hurting you because of the rush they get from inflicting chaos and pain.

The person you need to save is yourself.

Practicing self-love and self-care every day will be a new concept for you, but over time, you’ll see and feel it’s the right step towards a new and fulfilling life.

The time it takes to heal from walking away from a toxic person may be swift but other times, it can take years and cycles of anger, grief, sadness, relief and finally contentment.

DON’T WASTE YOUR TIME TRYING TO UNDERSTAND THE “WHY”

I myself cannot comprehend a toxic parent’s intentional manipulation, lying and inflicting pain upon their own child.

Trust me when I say that trying to find the ‘why’ to the actions of a toxic person is a fruitless journey. It is one you will inevitably try to figure out for yourself, but in order to let go, you must be able to move past not knowing exactly why a person does the things they do, in order to heal yourself and your scars.

Be empowered by the knowledge that you will never find the answer to “why” because you are a good person yourself and would never intentionally hurt other. They have no justification for the way they are and the things they do and cope with the fact you aren’t like them.

The way you feel is important and if this is the journey you choose to take and in all the loneliness and heartbreak of it, know that you are not alone – there is support, but more importantly, there are so many people like you who have chosen to be incredibly brave and embark on the path of their own happiness. Just like you.