You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks and months over thinking the past. Trying to put together pieces, imagining what could've been, should've been or would've been. Or you can pick up the pieces off the floor and move on as a stronger, smarter person....
No puedo irme sin comentarlo. Creo que la sociedad de este pais me ha demostrado una vez mas que sigue primando la hipocresia, el que diran, la avaricia, la falta de compasion, el egoismo, el machismo y sobretodo el abuso y como consecuencia el silencio.
Yo soy de la generacion en la que todas mis amigas fueron abusadas o por un taxista o un policia o ambos. Yo he sufrido abuso sexual por muchos anos y he formado un grupo que empezo con 20 chicas y ahora somos 1200 alrededor de USA. Hay dos cosas que curan o te ayudan a vivir como victima de abuso sexual; la primera reconocer y aceptar que no fue tu culpa y la segunda hablar de ello. Me da pena venir a Lima y encontrarme con gente que si escucha la palabra abuso se espanta por una doble moral, me da pena que todas las chicas bajen la cabeza con verguenza mientras cuento un poco mis experiencias, me da pena que un abogado de un estudio renombrado hoy se haya reido cuando hablabamos sobre el abuso sexual por parte de los padres y me da muchisima pena haber tenido que escuchar a una prima justificar a la persona que abuso sexualmente de mi por muchisimos anos diciendome "pero pobrecita esta viejita" a lo que yo conteste "vamos al Lurigancho a sacar a todos los violadores que purgan condena pero que ya estan viejitos pobrecitos".
Lima es la unica ciudad del mundo en la que me siento en riesgo permanente. ME PREGUNTO, PARA QUE TANTA MARCHA SI EL ABUSO ES JUSTIFICADO POR GENTE CON ESTUDIOS NO QUIERO NI IMAGINARME LO QUE PASA EN SITIOS MAS ALEJADOS.
El abuso de cualquier tipo NO ESTA JUSTIFICADO por nada ... no importa el genero, edad, condicion social, etc. Habran muchos que estan pensando "ay mira los huevos que tiene para contarlo" NO los huevos hay que tenerlos para denunciar y pedir ayuda.
Este viaje despues de todo me termino de quitar todo lo humanamente posible pero estoy agradecida porque me ha regalado algo invaluable, la libertad, y asi pienso vivir desde hoy LIBRE y no mas seudinomos cuando me hagan entrevistas porque yo soy LLAQUE y mi padre esta orgulloso de mi... y mi padre era es y sera la unica familia que tuve. No hay nada mas gratificante que despues de escribir un testimonio personal me manden emails adolescentes que no conozco de todas partes del mundo y que quieren conversar.
Ojala esto sirva para que hablen y tengan la oportunidad de ayudar... #ProudToBeGAY
A family member will take advantage of the fact that you are family – a bond that is supposed to be enduring, loving and respectful – to manipulate and hurt you because they know you will find it very hard to remove yourself because you are family.
ABUSE IS NEVER TOLERABLE!!!!
If there is physical abuse you absolutely need to cut ties.
Anyone who physically hurts is breaking the law and there are consequences for their actions. If someone if emotionally manipulating, bullying and abusing you, know that you deserve better and that it’s OK to let go and walk away even if you are walking away from your Mother or Father or a family member
No amount of love, forgiveness, guilt, grief or prayer will fix a person that is broken and purposefully hurting you because of the rush they get from inflicting chaos and pain.
The person you need to save is yourself.
Practicing self-love and self-care every day will be a new concept for you, but over time, you’ll see and feel it’s the right step towards a new and fulfilling life.
The time it takes to heal from walking away from a toxic person may be swift but other times, it can take years and cycles of anger, grief, sadness, relief and finally contentment.
DON’T WASTE YOUR TIME TRYING TO UNDERSTAND THE “WHY”
I myself cannot comprehend a toxic parent’s intentional manipulation, lying and inflicting pain upon their own child.
Trust me when I say that trying to find the ‘why’ to the actions of a toxic person is a fruitless journey. It is one you will inevitably try to figure out for yourself, but in order to let go, you must be able to move past not knowing exactly why a person does the things they do, in order to heal yourself and your scars.
Be empowered by the knowledge that you will never find the answer to “why” because you are a good person yourself and would never intentionally hurt other. They have no justification for the way they are and the things they do and cope with the fact you aren’t like them.
The way you feel is important and if this is the journey you choose to take and in all the loneliness and heartbreak of it, know that you are not alone – there is support, but more importantly, there are so many people like you who have chosen to be incredibly brave and embark on the path of their own happiness. Just like you.
You guys are my rock, my go-to, and the people I can't live without. You are always there for me, and for that, I cannot thank you enough.
No matter if it is noon or midnight, I can call, and you will pick right up. The countless late nights we stay up talking until one of us falls asleep, those are the times that matter most in life.
You always love me unconditionally, and you tell me everything will be okay.
I know in having you guys as friends, I will always have someone who protects me, tells me how worthy I am (even when I cannot see it), and someone who sees something in me when I feel like all hope is gone.
I cannot thank God enough for allowing our paths to cross ...
I am forever lucky, blessed, and thankful to have you.
One more time, thank you so much, It is such an amazing feeling to know that all of you love me just for being me. That is the greatest gift any friend could offer. It’s friends like you that make life so special!
Kindness is the most powerful weapon against hatred in this world. Thank you for continuing to inspire me to be kind to others, even when they are not kind towards me.
No matter how much we want things to stay the same, life is all about change. Sometimes change is for the better, and sometimes its not.
But no matter why things are changing, we need to be able to let go and move on. Whether it’s the death of a loved one, a painful breakup, a business failure, or a treacherous betrayal, holding onto pass pain and resentment will only hold you back.
Let me tell you this: if you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it's not because they enjoy solitude. It's because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them. Disappointment is a sort of bankruptcy - the bankruptcy of a soul that expends too much in hope and expectation. I FELT SO MUCH THAT I STARTED TO FEEL NOTHING....
But wait....
I Love myself now, I do. Not everything, but I love the good as well as the bad. I love my crazy lifestyle, and I love my hard discipline. I love my freedom of speech and the way my eyes get dark when I'm tired. I love that I have learned to trust people with my heart, even if it will get broken. I am proud of everything that I am and will become. THE ONLY PERSON WHO CAN PULL ME DOWN IS MYSELF, AND IM NOT GOING TO LET MYSELF PULL ME DOWN ANYMORE!!!!
